There are plenty of great reasons to indulge in the joys of sex during your period, and a ton of ways to maximize pleasure when doing it. Whether you’re nervous about venturing into the wide world of period sex for the first time or you’ve been an enthusiast for years but still worry about things getting messy, your partner’s freaking out, or the cleanup, we’re here to tell you. Orgasm will release feel-good chemicals like oxytocin, dopamine, and endorphins (our body’s natural painkillers) that can ease the pain of menstrual cramps and bloating. Studies have shown that people who have higher arousal are less grossed out by bodily fluids and ‘messy period sex.’ ” Who could argue with increased pleasure, decreased cramps, and greater intimacy?
1. Think of Blood as Just Another Lubricant
Oh yeah, you heard us. One of the great things about period sex is that you don’t need any lube because you’re already incredibly wet, which means some positions are actually easier for some women to be in rather than not. Some experts suggest sticking to one position so as not to create a mess, but I say go for it,” she adds. “Your vagina is actually more open and receptive at this time, so if there was a position you were trying to do, but it didn’t work so well in the past, now is the time.
2. Engage in Tantalizing and Extra-Slow Foreplay
Foreplay can be even hotter during this time of month. When you have your period your hormones are in overdrive, which means you might find it even easier to orgasm from touch or penetration,” says Emily Morse, Glamour contributor and host of the Sex With Emily podcast. “Remember that anticipation often heightens arousal and can make your orgasms even more intense. Although you might not be comfortable receiving oral sex, you can guide your partner to spend time playing with your nipples, teasing your inner thighs, and gently breathing on your clitoris which can be just the stimulation you need to intensify your orgasms.” Did we mention orgasms emit biochemicals that can help ease cramps?
3. Move Things to the Shower
If you‘re squeamish about the blood, try having sex in the shower, which will wash it all away as you cavort, or in the bathtub,” shares Gloria Brame, sex therapist and author of Sex for Grown-Ups. Tub bonus: Water usually temporarily stops the flow when you are submerged.
Even though “messy” sex can be some of the hottest sex, if it makes you self-conscious, some people find the cleansing shower setting helps loosen inhibitions.
4. Make Your Bed with Special Sheets
No shirts, no (cotton) sheets, no problem. You could just cover up your regular sheets and retrofit your bed for period sex. “You can even get special bedding such as a rubber sheet to protect your bed … and explore your kinky side,” says Chavez.
5. Have Sex in a Spooning Position
Come flow-time, this sex position can be one of the best: “When you‘re on your period, some women report more pelvic congestion, which is a heaviness that [may] trigger arousal,” says Costa. “This is why some women report wanting to have more sex while on their period, versus none at all.” Gentle positions like spooning can be a perfect way to enjoy sex right now, adds Morse: “You can play with the depth of penetration and different angles to make sure it works for you.” (The same goes for missionary!
6. Bring Out the Blindfolds
Your period is the perfect time to elevate sex by exploring other senses like sight and sound,” says Shallon Lester, author of dating memoir Exes and Ohs and YouTube sex and dating expert. And you don‘t have to go full-on Fifty Shades with all kinds of leather contraptions—just peel off your shirt and toss it over your partner’s eyes, then pin their hands and tell them they can’t move or peek,” adds Lester. “Every sense will be heightened, and you can play around with sensations, from nails to nibbles, with more bang for your buck!
7. Experiment with Lesser-Known Erogenous Zones
Not everyone is into [period sex], but that doesn’t mean you have to eliminate sex altogether,” says Costa. “There are plenty of other ways to seek pleasure with one another that don‘t have to do with [actual intercourse].” Get started heating things up by exploring some of these surprising EZs (yes, that’s short for erogenous zones). We‘re talking ears, hands, stomach—even the bottoms of the feet
8. Embrace the “Try Everything Once” Mentality
Only 55 percent of adults engage in sex during that time of the month, according to a study by Flex. If you haven’t tried it, you just might find that you really like it. For many couples who haven’t tried period sex, giving it a go can be an exciting chance to overcome a fear of the unknown. Who knows? You just might love it. And if not, you never have to do it again